SOMETIMES THE ONE WHO LOVES YOU IS THE ONE WHO HURTS YOU THE MOST
Lily hasn’t always had it easy, but that’s never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. She’s come a long way from the small town in Maine where she grew up – she graduated from college, moved to Boston, and started her own business. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily’s life suddenly seems almost too good to be true.
Ryle is assertive, stubborn, and maybe even a little arrogant. He’s also sensitive, brilliant, and has a total soft spot for Lily, but Ryle’s complete aversion to relationships is disturbing.
As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan – her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.
With this bold and deeply personal novel, Colleen Hoover delivers a heart-wrenching story that breaks exciting new ground for her as a writer. It Ends With Us is an unforgettable tale of love that comes at the ultimate price.
This book contains graphic scenes and very sensitive subject matter.
-Synopsis from Goodreads
Naked truth: We love It Ends with Us.
The books deals with domestic violence, something that either makes most people look the other way or makes the rest judge the victim and tell them something insensitive and uninformed like “Why don’t you just leave? It’s that easy.”
The thing is most of us are fortunate enough not to experience this horrible thing. We don’t know what victims are really going through but we are very quick to put our two cents in. And while not all domestic violence is one and the same, Ms. Colleen was able to give us a glimpse of what is and could be happening around us.
And what about the abusers? Most of us cast derisive looks at “weak” victims but somehow we forget who the real wrongdoers are.
The book also tells us something about breaking the cycle which can also be applied to other things and not just domestic violence. It urges us to challenge the things we are used to, to not just settle, and to push ourselves to do better and greater things we are undoubtedly capable of.
Isn’t it ironic how the very person that could do amazing things is the one holding himself or herself back? Well, humans.
On the Title
Karla: You know what, I am always looking for justifications and reasons why the book is titled the way it is and with this book…
Jovi: You got to the part where it says, “It ends with us.”
K: Yes! Oh my gosh! Goosebumps everywhere!
J: “It ends with us.” It’s a short statement but Colleen managed to fill our souls with it. Just powerful.
We also like that Ms. Colleen wrote about something that is clearly close to her heart, giving us a piece of her which just endears her to us even more, if such thing is even possible given how much we already adore her.
Jovi’s Rating – 4 Stars
Karla’s Rating – 5 Stars
I feel like everyone fakes who they really are, when deep down we’re all equal amounts of screwed up. Some of us are just better at hiding it than others.
No one is exclusively bad, nor is anyone exclusively good. Some are just forced to work harder at suppressing the bad.
What determines a person’s character aren’t the mistakes we make. It’s how we take those mistakes and turn them into lessons rather than excuses.
Imagine all the people you meet in your life. There are so many. They come in like waves, trickling in and out with the tide. Some waves are much bigger and make more of an impact than others. Sometimes the waves bring with them things from deep in the bottom of the sea and they leave those things tossed onto the shore. Imprints against the grains of sand that prove the waves had once been there, long after the tide recedes.
That was what Atlas was telling me when he said “I love you.” He was letting me know that I was the biggest wave he’d ever come across. And I brought so much with me that my impressions would always be there, even when the tide rolled out.
…sometimes the things that matter to you most are also the things that hurt you the most. And in order to get over that hurt, you have to sever all the extensions that keep you tethered to that pain.
I think that’s one of the biggest signs a person has matured—knowing how to appreciate things that matter to others, even if they don’t matter very much to you.
Every time you choose to stay, it makes the next time that much harder to leave.
“You were the only one in my life who ever stood up for me. You were strong when I was scared.” A tear falls from her eye when she says, “Be that girl, Lily. Brave and bold.”
It’s easy when we’re on the outside to believe that we would walk away without a second thought if a person mistreated us. It’s easy to say we couldn’t continue to love someone who mistreats us when we aren’t the ones feeling the love of that person.
We become a sobbing mess of tears and broken hearts and shattered dreams. We hold each other. We hold our daughter. And as hard as this choice is, we break the pattern before the pattern breaks us.
Cycles exist because they are excruciating to break. It takes an astronomical amount of pain and courage to disrupt a familiar pattern. Sometimes it seems easier to just keep running in the same familiar circles, rather than facing the fear of jumping and possibly not landing on your feet.
People who know very well that the heart is just not a muscle.